You're All You've Got !

              You're All You've Got!            

   Don't compromise yourself, You're all you've got!

How far would you go to please the crowd?

So many times we find ourselves in positions wherein we are forced to compromise. Compromising is good because sometimes for a relationship to work ( whatever type ) we need to bend down in order come to a mutual decision ,agree to disagree etc, but not at the detriment of your identity.

For example, love. Yes, so many people lose their identity in the name of love! We see people fall in love and the next thing you know,they've changed. Personality is different, so is the attitude. In a relationship, when someone truly loves you they wont ask you to compromise to the point of changing yourself just to suit their liking. If they do then they never liked you to start with because when you compromise yourself, you end up losing yourself. Why try and change a person you so claim to be in love with?
You're all you've got,believe it or not!

When you have finish sacrificing ''you'' what are you going to have left? Stand for what you believe in and use your head wisely when making compromises. If you're insecure and don't have an ounce of confidence in yourself it is very easy to sway to the wind....that is whatever pleases the crowd. You have to love yourself, look after yourself, cherish yourself and have confidence in yourself and that's not being selfish its called being sensible because only then can you give your 100% to others. Lest you forget,no one cares about dead bones!

Some people will say its in their genes, they love to help a damsel in distress, they have a big heart but please don't allow that big heart of yours to take you to a place where you would be asking questions with no answers.You have to know when to draw the line. Some are only there to use you and suck you dry like a ketchup sachet and after they're satisfied, they get rid of you, yes just like that. Your happiness is essential, so don't go compromising that too in the name of love and marriage. Remember no one loves you better than you do and a sad person can't make anyone happy,so work on yourself.

You live your life for people, for the crowd, to see a smile on people's face and hardly ever stop a minute to see that ''you'' is OK. Do a good deed here and there but don't push too hard to the point where your smile would be lost in the process and you hardly noticed it. What good are you to people if you are losing yourself in the process?

Compromising yourself is not a guarantee for people to love you,its not a guarantee that they will be there for you forever neither is it a visa to a better life. When you done compromising till you don't even recognise yourself,who's going to rescue your lost soul? Not even you can rescue yourself because you wouldn't have a clue as to who you are any more and you better be praying hard for the person responsible to be by your side which is highly unlikely! Don't count on it,not everyone has a ''big heart❤️'' like you. If they had to push so hard to change you,where is the love?

I appreciate compromises but only if its beneficial to both parties or if its going towards a positive direction. If its not then you are really better on your own. You don't need anyone to make you feel whole,it comes from within. Neither do you need anyone's approval to live your life,you've only got one so don't compromise it. If they find it so hard to love you for you,give them the fishing net...there are plenty more fools.....ooops I meant fishes in the sea.

Remember,for every time you compromise yourself, you are slowly losing ''you'' while giving a part of  ''you'' away...it might be a need or a want and at the same time you are settling for less.


Thank You for reading .Hope it will helpful for you guys.

Silence

Silence Is An Answer Too 

You might not like it but it’s still an answer.You might not understand it but it is an answer. It might not be what you were hoping for but it is an answer. Life is not black and white. There are grey areas too and the quicker we learn to understand, embrace and accept that, the easier life becomes.

If someone is not answering your call or text or getting back to you in any form then you need to switch that common sense switch on. (Even though it is not common) Know when to stay and when you've overstayed your welcome. Friendships and relationships go a long way with that in mind. Good bye isn't always a bad thing. Understand that we can love people from a distance too.

There may be several reasons for their silence but if they decide to not communicate that to you, understand that they don’t owe you an explanation.You need to learn to read between the lines. If he or she doesn't understand your silence there are chances that they’ll never understand your words. Silence is an answer too.

You will never understand but sometimes your silence speaks louder than your words. Your silence is a voice on its own. Silence can be very loud. Understand this!

A silent moment with a loved one is all we need sometimes. Try having a conversation in silence…simply beautiful.  Not a word just the loud silence air sweeping through. You’ll be surprised how satisfying and calming that is. Oh what a blessing it is to have the one who understands your silence.

  

Some people can’t bear to stay in their own company, they despise it. They think their world is crumbling. That is because they haven’t discovered the strength of their silence and the power of alone time. Till they do they will be in the dangerous business of craving people’s attention at all times. If only they knew how dangerous that field is.

Use your silent time to collect your thoughts, revise and evaluate your life. Think about your past failures and future endeavours. Learn about yourself. Give attention to areas in your life where you have been lacking - self-love! Reason and see why certain things have or have not worked out for you. Utilise your silence constructively by diffusing negative thoughts with a dose of positivity. Spend quality silent time with your God.

Silence yourself so you can listen more. When you listen more, you understand more. When you understand more you enlighten yourself.  When you enlighten yourself you become more knowledgeable and you get answers. Silence is an answer too!  

   

My grandmother once said to me, if you have nothing good to say then say nothing at all. This is kind of a mental personal self-note to myself. I only learnt the value of my silence when I understood the power of my words. That is why experience will forever remain the best teacher.

People take years to develop their self-esteem. Years to be the person they are. I wouldn't want to be the one to destroy them with just one word due to my lack of understanding of the value of my silence. When it’s time to shut up, all you have to do is shut the hell up! No buts no excuses.

        

You don’t always need your words but if you must please use it wisely! Certain battles you can’t win with your loud and mighty words. When you feel like running your mouth, stop and think what you've often regretted the most, your speech or your silence?

Silence is an answer too.

Silence is strength…bask in it.

Silence is a language…understand it.

Haven’t you heard the old adage, Silence is golden!

Just a thought my dear friends, just a thought.

Till then

Xoxo